We cover a wide range of sexual topics surrounding the small penis on this blog, and some of the topics we discuss may even be considered “taboo.” But, the name of this blog is “Love Small Penis,” so while we do discuss a lot of fascinating subjects involving the small penis, the bottom line message we try to convey to all lesser endowed men, is the importance of learning to accept, love and celebrate your small penis. If you have the right attitude, the confidence and put forth the effort, you will be able to satisfy most women, regardless of your endowment. While this article is geared toward small endowed men, I would argue that the suggestions provided below can apply to any man regardless of whether he has a 4, 6 or an 8 inch cock.
Before I continue, let me say that I really enjoy this blog, and I’m really proud of my husband for having the desire and interest to “create” and maintain it. We have had many wonderful and exciting discussions about the articles and comments from followers. Those of you, who have gotten to “know” him, understand why I love him like I do. His ability to express his ideas and thoughts about this complex and fascinating subject is amazing. I enjoy contributing to the effort, and this article is one that needs to be written, and I believe is best written by a woman.
This blog has been a real eye-opener for me. I have learned that many of the same fears and apprehensions Steve had expressed to me over the years, as well as many of the things that now turn him on, are shared by many small endowed men as well. I have also been equally fascinated by the women contributors, many of whom are also married to men who are small endowed. The love and affection you have for your husbands/boyfriends is evident in what you write and how you describe your relationship. Your ideas and suggestions provide encouragement and also serve as an inspiration to all men regardless of their endowment. I also want to reach out to those of you who are “lurkers” (men and women) and invite you to join us. This is a non-judgmental blog that may help you better understand this very sensitive and hard to discuss issue.
In an article I wrote back on July 8th, “Why I Love My Husband’s Small Penis” (Steve’s Wife), I described my own personal views about penis size and sex with my husband. While that article focused on why I love my husband’s small penis, I realized that I wanted to provide some ideas and thoughts that may help any small endowed man realize his “full” potential and show him how he can compete for women just like any other man, regardless of the size of his penis. This isn’t an all-inclusive list, and I’m sure other female contributors will chime in, and I hope they do, but this is at least a start! J
Give Maximum Effort: One of the comments I have seen several women make on here, and that I completely agree with is for a man to give maximum effort in bed. Don’t be a slacker. It shouldn’t be about the “quick” slam-bam-thank-you-mam orgasm so you can get back to the football game, rather it should be about, as Steve has said, “Bringing You’re “A” Game” every time. There is a time and place for “quickies” to be sure, but remember the importance of giving maximum effort when having sex with your partner. We want to be pursued, desired and conquered regardless of how many “inches” you have. Nothing turns us on more than effort, and that alone speaks volumes to a woman and is a major turn on.
Communicate With Your Partner: Don’t make the mistake and assume your partner knows what you want. For example, early on, I couldn’t get Steve to respond to what he liked when it came to a simple blow job. I’m not a mind reader, so I wanted him to tell me, what felt good, what he wanted, how he wanted it done, etc. Similarly, to you guys, don’t assume you know what your partner wants when it comes to her “oral needs.” Ask her, if she wants you to move up or down, or to a different area, or more pressure or less, etc. A common mistake we all make: What may have worked great with a former partner, may not work at all with your current one. And don’t forget to open up and tell us about your fantasies and needs. Remember in my previous article on the subject where I mentioned what a mental mind fuck it is for us when you share those intimate details. Communicate!
Recognizing and Conquering Fears: This is a very important one. Steve explained to me after the fact that the first time he undressed before me he was almost paralyzed with fear because of his small penis. What he didn’t realize or could even comprehend is that I was just as terrified as he was. Would he like my body? Would he like what he saw? Would he be turned on, or be completely turned off? Did I have too much of this, or too little of that? These fears cut both ways, and most of us (men and women) have them. The first step in conquering fear is being able to recognize it.
Lifelong Sexual Education: Don’t make the mistake of assuming you have all the requisite skills in your sexual tool box, and therefore you don’t need to learn or try new things. The beauty and excitement of sex is expanding your horizons. Plus, what turned you on when you were 20 may not be as much of a turn on when you reach 40 or 50. Our needs, desires and fantasies continue to grow, change and expand and we should be sexually flexible and open to new possibilities. The variety and mixing things up adds to sexual pleasure and is just plain fun. It can help keep things alive and exciting.
Foreplay: There is a myth when it comes to providing a woman with great oral sex. The myth goes like this: Well-endowed men don’t like it, and aren’t very good at it, while all small endowed men are masters at it. Many small endowed men see this as the great “equalizer” and it can be, but don’t just assume you are a master at it. Talk to your wife/girlfriend and learn exactly what she likes, where she wants it, how much, etc. You certainly can be a master at it, but again, it takes effort. A man who is an expert with his tongue and fingers can work magic on any woman.
Understanding Sexual Differences: Steve has written about this at length, and the Kama Sutra, written centuries before, does an excellent job describing it, but it’s very important to recognize your sexual differences. For example, the Kama Sutra talks about the ideal “coupling” in penis/vaginal sizes as: small & small, average & average, and big & big. What do you do if your hubby/boyfriend has a small penis and you have an average or larger sized vagina? Have you ever thought about that? Have you tried a variety of sexual positions to identify those that work best for you? Even if you have the “ideal coupling” there may still be some challenges. For example, Steve & I are both small down there, but some traditional sex positions don’t work because Steve’s penis isn’t quite long enough and he slips out. Again, the good news is there are lots of very good sexual positions that can maximize your sexual pleasure and can help bridge any gap in size differences. Plus, there are always “toys” which can also add to your pleasure. And, what would you do if your hubby had a big penis and you were small down there? There are just as many positions you can try to minimize any difficulties from that end as well. Unfortunately, a lot of couples don’t understand the importance of sexual differences and what you can do if there is a slight mismatch in your sizes. Experimenting can be a lot of fun.
Spontaneous Desire: I’m going to go out on a limb and try to speak for the majority of women here. We love the desire and lust our husbands/boyfriends show us. It affirms our desirability and we simply love the attention. I love it when my husband fondles me or otherwise shows physical signs of desire, even if it doesn’t lead to instant sex. Maybe I’m on my way to work, but still the touching, feeling, and yes even “groping” is a demonstration of that desire. Knowing he can’t keep his hands off of me really turns me on. Similarly, a simple passionate kiss unexpectedly is another visible sign. Not the good-bye kisses in the morning or the “Hello how was your day” kiss in the evening, but the unannounced, for no particular reason, deep, passionate kiss just because he wants to. That is hotter than hot!
Spontaneous Sex: Similarly, spontaneous sex is the ultimate turn on for me. It’s taking that demonstrated desire to a whole new level. Being taken on the dinner table, the couch, the stairs, etc., is another example of that heated desire. Sex shouldn’t be “scripted” and only occur on “date night” or when the moon is full. Let me be very graphic here. There are times, when women don’t want to be made love to, we want to be fucked, and I mean fucked hard and with intensity and passion. For you small guys, when my husband does fuck me like this the last thing on earth I’m thinking about is he “only” has 4 inches. I am so turned on, and wound up, when we are in the throes of passion, how many inches he has is the last thing on my mind. This kind of demonstrated desire is not out of the reach of any man regardless of his penis size.
Do You Know Your Wife’s Erogenous Zones? One of the most erotic and exiting things for a woman is having a man that both knows and understands his woman’s erogenous zones. My personal major erogenous zone is my nipples. They can barely be touched, tweaked or sucked without sending a major shiver straight to my pussy. It’s automatic, and it’s every time. I love it when they are tweaked beforehand, and even during oral sex. It’s an unbelievable feeling and one that I simply can’t get enough of. Fortunately for me, my husband knows this and is an expert at providing them the attention they deserve. But, for another woman, it may not be her nipples at all. It may be her neck or some other body part that needs “extra” attention. A skilled lover will seek out this knowledge from his partner and learn to master it.
Go on Dates: When was the last time you took your wife out on a date, and referred to it as such? Take her out for an evening and tell her ahead of time you want to go on a “date.” Have a nice dinner, sip some wine and give her your undivided attention. (Hint: And don’t be checking the sports scores on your iPhone during dinner.) If you haven’t done this in a while, watch her reaction. There is nothing that will start a woman’s engine running than having a “hot date” with the man she loves. I guarantee she will love it, and you just might get lucky when you get home!
These are just a few things that any man, regardless of his penis size can do that will really turn a woman on. What are you waiting for? Surprise her, try some of these ideas and see how she responds. My guess is she will love it, and love you even more for the effort! J