How To Start In The Cuckold Life (Part 2)

I wrote the first post about your start in the cuckold life here. Please read it first 🙂


Texting:    Cuckolds love to be teased and kept on edge especially though text messages.  Let your imagination run wild and send him text messages about how wet you are, or that you’re thinking about some cute guy, etc.  Whether you are out on a girl’s night out, or perhaps he is out of town on business, the Hot Wife can really stir the imagination of her man by sending very short, sexy text messages.  Just be creative.  Its agony and ecstasy rolled into one for a cuckold.

Flirting:   Start flirting more openly with other men.  Yes, even in front of your husband.  If you have the opportunity and you’re talking to another man, bend over enough to give him a look at your bountiful cleavage.  Your cuckold will be zeroed in on the other man’s eyes and it will make him squirm.   And while you’re at it, and if you’re away from him, let him know when other men hit on you.  It will turn him on and confirm your status as a Hot Wife to him.

His Penis:   If you’ve read this far, it won’t surprise you to hear ALL cuckolds are penis-centered.  If your cuckold is underdeveloped in the penis department you may still be content, indeed even satisfied with his “mini-member,” but it’s best to keep that “little” secret to yourself.  This may require a complete paradigm shift on your part, especially if you have praised him as a lover in the past, but trust me, it will be worth it.   The more doubt, suspense and sexual tension you can create for your cuckold, the better.

Another hot button for the cuckold is for you to begin reminding him openly that he has a very small penis.  He knows it, and you know it, and remember cuckolds want the truth and are very, very turned on by it.  If you haven’t said things like that in the past he will be acutely aware of you acknowledging it now, and it will plant a “little” seed of doubt in his mind which is a huge aphrodisiac for a cuckold.  It’s not said in a mean spirited way, in fact you could just lovingly explain to your man that he doesn’t quite measure up down there but that doesn’t change the love and commitment you have for him.   Rather, it just necessitates a new kind of sexual honestly which can lead in any number of directions…. and leave him hanging, wondering what you mean.  Simultaneously, whenever you see a big one in videos, magazines or on the internet, don’t be bashful about telling your cuckold.  Hearing you say something like, “OMG, his cock is huge,” or, “Honey, his cock is so much bigger than yours,” are music to the ears of your cuckold.  If you don’t believe it, look at his stiff, little cock.  Hard cocks don’t lie.

The Competitor:  All of the above will really excite your husband.  But, to take it to the next level, he needs (and wants) competition.  Since you aren’t ready to take it to that next step – at least for now, consider an imaginary boyfriend.   In the cuckold world, the boyfriend is often called the bull.  How do you find (or create) an imaginary boyfriend?  Simple, if you don’t have a dildo, buy one.   It doesn’t have to be as big as a baseball bat, just noticeably bigger than your husband.  Realistic looking dildos are perfect because they represent the real thing to your cuckold.

  • Lover or boyfriend?  It’s ok to refer to your new toy as a lover or boyfriend, but there is something more permanent about referring to him as your stud boyfriend.  To personalize it even more, give it (him) a name.  Call it Jeff or whatever name you choose.
  • Compare your boyfriends cock with your husbands.  It’s one thing if he does it, but has an entirely different and powerful effect when you do it.
  • Don’t be in a rush, “play” with your boyfriend.   Let your cuckold watch you holding and fondling your boyfriends cock.  Rub it between your breasts.  Give him a long, slow blowjob.   The imagery of seeing your lips or hand wrapped around another cock with your wedding ring visible is very powerful imagery indeed.
  • When you decide it’s time to be taken by your boyfriend, take your time and enjoy yourself.  Take long, slow and deep strokes at first.  Your cuckold will love watching the show.   If he normally ejaculates quickly, it will turn him on watching you take it for a longer period of time.  If you are able orgasm or have multiple orgasms that will just send him over the edge.  Just pleasure yourself and have fun.
  • Surprise your cuckold some night and take your boyfriend out from under your pillow and say something like, “Honey, I really need Jeff’s BIG cock tonight, you don’t mind do you?”  And once you’re done, make sure to describe the experience glowingly.  “The feeling of being taken so deep is incredible,” or, “OMG, it touches places in me your just not capable of and feels amazing.”
  • After your boyfriend has pleasured you, if you feel like you want sex with your cuckold, challenge him.  “I really want your little cock now, but can you compete with Jeff’s big cock?”  Just get ready, because that will be about the only thing your cuckold will need to hear.  Be prepared for him to fuck you with urgency and a frenzy you have seldom experienced.  You get the picture.  Just be creative, play with his mind and you will keep him indefinitely on edge which will put him in Cuckold Heaven.
  • Finally, another playful twist might include sending your cuckold a text sometime saying something like, “I’m thinking about Jeff and am SO wet,” or if he is out of town send him one that says something like, “I had forgotten how big Jeff was” – implying that you had just been taken care of by your stud boyfriend.  Your cuckold will probably cum on himself! 

Cuckolding in reality is not for everyone.  Even for those who are interested in the lifestyle and feel they have good communication and a strong relationship may choose not to do it in reality for a variety of reasons.  A safe middle-ground is creating a cuckold fantasy world which allows couples to explore the lifestyle without complicating their day-to-day lives.  It also gives them a chance to enhance their relationship by removing the routine vanilla sex and replacing it with a much more erotic, intense and exciting relationship.


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  1. Curvylover · · Reply

    Hi Steve,
    Thanks for the great post, from a real cuckold husband since 2010, love reading ur posts.


    1. thank you!


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