Please read part I here! (Why men need to compete for their wives.)
Part II can be found here (A woman’s self perception)
Secondly, you have to understand some basic differences between the sexes. Men and women are not only hardwired differently, they are also quite different biologically. It could take literally volumes to describe the biological differences between men and women, but an excellent, condensed summary was offered by Susan Gower, a sex and relationships counselor. The next two paragraphs paraphrase Ms. Gower’s conclusions.
“Nature has given women an exponentially stronger sex drive than men and the ability to experience a far greater quantity, intensity, and variety of sexual orgasms. This is nature’s way of motivating a woman to seek out sexual activity. As a result, women can experience a wide range and intensity of sexual pleasure and diversity of orgasms. Besides the pleasure and orgasms derived from manual, oral and coital stimulation of a woman’s clitoris, all three of which feel distinctly different, a woman can reach a completely different sensation of pleasure from the stimulation of her g-spot by a well-endowed man. A woman can even reach orgasm by proper stimulation of her nipples if she has been brought to a state of intense clitoral arousal. Stimulation of her nipples and clitoris at the same time will give her yet another unique intense orgasm. Her ultimate height of pleasure is found in oral or manual titillation of her clitoris while simultaneously having her g-spot stimulated. Finally, the crowning pinnacle of a woman’s sexual superiority is her ability to have a multiple orgasms and full body orgasmic experiences. It has been theorized that this trait actually is a natural function designed to allow a woman to participate and enjoy sex with multiple partners over a short period of time. This does not make her immoral or mean that she no longer loves her husband. It is simply part of her genetic code”. Women are built for sex and lots of it.
“On the other hand, men are far simpler sexually. Stimulate their glans (the little patch of skin at the front of the penis just below its head) and they can ejaculate. Furthermore, men can get nearly the same level of satisfaction from masturbating as they do completing a sex act with a woman. His sex drive will simply grow stronger the longer he goes without sex, with a singular, simplistic orgasm resulting. He is content mating with any female he finds desirable, but is perfectly capable of being content with having sex with the same female for life, providing certain motivations are provided.”
Given the obvious biological differences between men and women, it’s interesting that in any discussion about the rising rates of marital infidelity the emphasis is usually on men who cheat, but very little about women who do. In the past few decades there has been a significant increase in the number of married women who are seeking out sexual partners other than their husbands. According to the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, approximately 50% of married women will have an extramarital affair at some time in their marriage. Two recent studies from 2006 (UCLA and the University of New Mexico) have published findings that suggest women may even be genetically predisposed to cheating on their partners during the most fertile part of their cycle. While the evidence may suggest that a married woman is instinctively inclined to seek a variety of sexual partners (though she may choose not to), a man has a sex drive that is easily manipulated and can be satisfied by a single partner. The genetic programming that drives a man is largely based on the thrill of pursuit, not the need for variety.
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